Don't say what you want to say, say what people want to hear!
The person you want to connect with is still there, it’s just whether you know to take advantage of your chance!
In modern life, perhaps it is not necessary to use too many words to talk about the importance and role of networking. Networking is the activity of building and establishing a network of relationships in life.
If you still have difficulties in connecting with someone, please refer to this article now. Maybe after this article, you not only improve your networking skills but also enjoy networking because of realizing how many benefits that you did not know before, such as finding ... a lover!
Here are four simple strategies that anyone can use to gradually change their mindset/view about connections:
What can we get from being connected?
How to make connecting more interesting?
What can we contribute thanks to networking?
What is the meaning behind connecting?
Change the mindset
The driving factors that govern human actions are often divided into two main groups:
- Promotion-focused: This group will tend to think about the benefits they receive when networking such as relationships, development, achievement ...
- Prevention-focused: In contrast to the above group, these subjects often consider networking as part of work that they need to be reluctant to participate in to avoid the downsides of being alone.
Therefore, a simple way to change the individual mindset from the latter to the former is to change your own motivation.
When you're an innate introvert, of course, you can't turn into an extrovert just by this way. The secret here is to choose to look on the bright side of the matter.
Finding common interests is not difficult!
The next step of overcoming shyness when networking is to make networking more attractive.
You will eventually find groups of people with common interests. This makes networking easier and more inspirational. Later, when you have a certain amount of network, you can even initiate meetings, chat on any topic you want, as long as you find one or a few people who are really interested in. It is important to be truly proactive in searching.
Give to receive!
Even if you don't have the same interest as one person, you can always find something valuable and meaningful to share with the other person. It is easy to see that someone feels shy, reserved and finds it hard to speak out when being in a group of people engrossed in communication. Maybe because they feel they are inexperienced in an organization, maybe because they belong to a minority, etc ... There are many barriers that make them unwilling to participate in networking.
The paradox is that these people can be the beneficiaries who receive more benefits than participating in networking with everyone.
When you understand that the value of networking stands not only in what you will get, but also in how you contribute to those relationships, you will be braver to speak up, and overcome the obstacle of shyness!
Don't network just for personal gain!
Any action becomes more motivational when it is tied to a visionary goal.
This also explains why the football matches of the national team are always attracted to millions of people - even though not all of which are fans of this sport. The reason is simply that the sacred national pride has connected them to this concern.
In short, the most important thing here is that we need to build relationships with others with a sincere, care-free heart and not take any relationship for granted. Networking is not merely for our personal benefits, yet each person as a part of a large community will bring his own values to contribute to the common value. Learn how to cherish each relationship and utilize their strength in case of necessity.
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